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Impostor Syndrome Can Be Beat

Is This You or Someone you Know?   “I feel like a fraud, an impostor.” I’ll get found out any minute.” “I’m not as smart, talented, qualified as they think I am…”  But your accomplishments prove you really are smart, competent, etc. Any of this ring true?  You’re not alone and you’re probably a conscientious person with empathy for others.  You may also have impostor syndrome.  It’s common for talented, capable people to have trouble believing any amount of evidence that they are not an impostor, no matter how successful they become.  Many of my clients confide in me that these self doubts have been blocking them. I’ve also experienced it myself, when I was in a previous career. If you’re part of a group that is often considered less capable than others in some way (younger than others, a nontraditional career, a woman, lesser credentials than others…) you may be even more prone to this lack of belief in yourself. You may struggle with procrastination, anxiety, overpreparing, overworking, and perfectionism.  You may suffer from shame & self sabotage.  “I want a more rewarding career, to apply for promotions, become self-employed, be confident in meetings, give better presentations, have better relationships….” is what I often hear from my clients. Maybe you would like the same benefits. What Helps: Some of your strategies may work well and can be maintained at a moderate level if they are helping you. If they are causing distress and blocking you from your goals, there are techniques that work to remove the set of beliefs that keep you stuck and create better ones that...

Health Care Career Stress

Trapped?  Stressed?  Help for Health Care Career Stress: Workers in the traditional health care system are telling me this is how they feel.  Too much change, happening too fast,  imposed by others, and not only unnecessary, but actually harmful. For example, most of the change is cutbacks. Most of the cutbacks are in staffing. Everyone is doing the work of 2-3 people, and fearful of dropping the ball.  Rightly so, because they sometimes get blamed for making mistakes or getting behind in their work when the workload is unsafe or impossible to sustain.  This takes a toll, especially on conscientious types who really care about their performance. This describes L, who was caught in this trap. L. is an intelligent, cautious, and caring health care professional; a highly educated introvert (HSP). She was dreading being asked to join one more committee, going to meetings, overwhelmed with emails, patients, bosses, co-workers who blamed & shamed others, major changes every six months.  She dreamed of having better leaders who stayed longer, who protected, supported, and mentored their staff.   She knew she had lots to offer but was afraid to speak up in meetings after seeing the bullies target those who disagreed with them.  She was anxious every day and had trouble sleeping at night.  She didn’t want to lose her high salary and benefits, those are hard to find. This built up until she couldn’t stand another year of this. After L. found me by googling Vancouver HSP counsellors, we worked on setting goals for what she wanted to be different in her life and then co- designing strategies.  We...