Is This You or Someone you Know?
“I feel like a fraud, an impostor.” I’ll get found out any minute.” “I’m not as smart, talented, qualified as they think I am…” But your accomplishments prove you really are smart, competent, etc. Any of this ring true? You’re not alone and you’re probably a conscientious person with empathy for others. You may also have impostor syndrome. It’s common for talented, capable people to have trouble believing any amount of evidence that they are not an impostor, no matter how successful they become. Many of my clients confide in me that these self doubts have been blocking them. I’ve also experienced it myself, when I was in a previous career.
If you’re part of a group that is often considered less capable than others in some way (younger than others, a nontraditional career, a woman, lesser credentials than others…) you may be even more prone to this lack of belief in yourself.
You may struggle with procrastination, anxiety, overpreparing, overworking, and perfectionism. You may suffer from shame & self sabotage. “I want a more rewarding career, to apply for promotions, become self-employed, be confident in meetings, give better presentations, have better relationships….” is what I often hear from my clients. Maybe you would like the same benefits.
Some of your strategies may work well and can be maintained at a moderate level if they are helping you. If they are causing distress and blocking you from your goals, there are techniques that work to remove the set of beliefs that keep you stuck and create better ones that support you in creating a balanced life. I remember some clients being so surprised at how their inner healthy parent voice decreased their procrastination and anxiety so they could move ahead. Some of them had EMDR ( a therapy type) to replace their inner critic/impostor beliefs with stronger, healthier, balanced beliefs. They then thrived in their relationships and in their work. Some were professors, teachers, writers, artists, business owners, lawyers, doctors, ….many are HSPs, and some are quiet leaders who are now confidently able to offer more of their gifts to the world and living a more meaningful and joyful life.
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